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The Science of Compatibility
Finding Your Perfect Match

Discover how personality traits, values, and psychological factors determine relationship success. Based on 40+ years of psychological research and real-world data from successful couples.

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What Science Tells Us About Compatibility

Decades of psychological research reveal what truly makes relationships work

83%

Personality Match

Of lasting relationships share core personality traits according to John Gottman's research

67%

Values Alignment

More important than shared interests for long-term relationship satisfaction

4.2x

Attachment Harmony

Secure attachment pairs are more likely to maintain satisfying relationships

91%

Communication Style

Of relationship conflicts stem from communication style mismatches

The Big Five Factors

Personality Dimensions That Matter

The Five Factor Model is the most scientifically validated personality framework in psychology

Openness

Creativity, curiosity, willingness to try new experiences. High openness pairs well with similar partners.

High-High Excellent
High-Low Challenging
Low-Low Good

Conscientiousness

Organization, responsibility, goal-oriented behavior. Most compatible when levels are similar.

High-High Excellent
Medium-Medium Good
High-Low Difficult

Extraversion

Social energy, enthusiasm, activity level. Moderate differences can be complementary.

Similar Levels Best
Moderate Diff Good
Extreme Diff Challenging
Attachment Theory

How Attachment Styles Affect Compatibility

Based on John Bowlby's attachment theory – the most predictive factor in relationship satisfaction

Secure Attachment (56% of population)

Comfortable with Intimacy

These individuals are comfortable with intimacy and independence. They communicate needs clearly and handle conflict constructively.

Best matches: Other secure individuals, with potential for growth with anxious or avoidant partners.

Anxious Attachment (20% of population)

Seeks Reassurance

Often worries about abandonment, seeks constant reassurance, may become clingy in relationships.

Best matches: Secure partners who provide consistent reassurance. Most challenging with avoidant partners.

Avoidant Attachment (24% of population)

Values Independence

Prioritizes independence, may withdraw during intimacy, often appears emotionally distant.

Best matches: Secure partners who respect space. Most challenging with anxious partners.

Discover Your Compatibility Profile

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How do you typically handle relationship conflicts?
I address issues directly and seek compromise
I worry about the relationship and seek reassurance
I prefer space and time alone to process
I avoid conflict and hope issues resolve themselves

Based on validated psychological assessments including the Big Five Inventory and Adult Attachment Scale

Real Compatibility Success

Matches Made Through Science

Couples who found lasting love through compatibility-based matching

"We were matched based on personality compatibility scores. Our values and communication styles aligned perfectly. What started as a conversation about shared interests turned into the most meaningful relationship of my life."

JS

Jennifer & Steven

Matched 2022 • Now engaged

"As a senior returning to dating, I appreciated the science-based approach. The compatibility assessment helped me connect with someone who shares my values and life perspective. We've been traveling together for a year now."

MR

Margaret & Robert

Both 68 • Found companionship

"After several disappointing relationships, I tried the compatibility matching. The difference was incredible. We understood each other from the first conversation. It felt natural because we were fundamentally compatible."

TD

Thomas & Diana

Together 18 months

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